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Mistress Marilyn's POV
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What a Week! 
6th-Jan-2011 09:52 pm
me-glowing: charlie_mc
I'm a little shell-shocked tonight by the week I've had already, and I haven't even gotten to Friday's parade creative team or the meeting with Vancouver's mayor.

On Tuesday I was sitting in a Communications meeting with two other staff members and my cell phone rang. I would usually ignore it, but for some reason I answered. It was a board member who would usually call me on the office phone. I wished her Happy New Year and asked how she was doing. When she said "not so well," I asked her how her husband was; I knew he had surgery in early December. She said, "Actually, he died." Then I sat there with two people watching me talk to a heartbroken woman who had lost her great love, listening to her describe holding his hand at the end, trying to find the right words to say when she broke down about how afraid she is. "Marilyn, when everyone leaves, I'm going to be alone in this house!"

She's about my age and in the same business, well, the public relations part. And she's very cool. Her husband was 62.


Wednesday I had been through two meetings when Ashley told me my pal Gil, the Korean vet who's been one of the characters in my life (I'll write more about him in another post) was trying to reach me to invite me to City Council that very morning. (I admit I had avoided two of his calls.) It seems the Council was voting on one of our shared passions, renaming Portland's Memorial Coliseum the Veterans Memorial Coliseum. We had 15 minutes to get there and it was pouring down rain, but Ashley and I took off for City Hall. And we got to sit there and listen to the testimony as the vets (including another great friend of mine who's a Vietnam vet) told their tales, and finally as the Council voted unanimously to make the change. It was an amazing moment.

So last night I dvr'd the Council session, then burned two dvds, one for Gil and one for my other friend. While I was doing that, I finally paid the bills that have been waiting two weeks.

Life's so full of moments. Important moments. And lots of less important ones in between. The key to getting it right is to pay attention. If I had missed that Council meeting because of ignoring Gil and Ashley hadn't had the guts to encourage me, I would have missed out. And if I hadn't answered my phone and listened patiently, I might have done more injury to an already bleeding heart.

It's not by accident these things happened this first week of 2011. And even though I feel pretty much overwhelmed by trying to keep up with life right now, I don't intend to let it leave me in the dust. Not even if I have to huff and puff a little along the way.

7th-Jan-2011 07:29 am (UTC)
Marilyn, you are such an important person in so many people's eyes and I hope you understand how much you make a difference. Anyone can reach out, but you speak with so much meaning and understanding, that of course people gravitate towards you.

Thank you for helping your friend with words that demonstrate caring. The veterans knew that you should be at City Hall and that happened. You will never be left in the dust, and will always stand up and be counted.

I pray for your days to be some easier and you to take more time for Marilyn. I hope that we can have a little time together this weekend.

My cribbage went well tonight until poor Eugene fell on his way to the car. He cut his head open, broke his glasses, and went to South West Hospital in Vancouver. The firemen and ambulance attendants were wonderful, and thank God for John Mealy who helped us hold compresses on the bleeding until they got there.

I wish that seniors didn't fall so often. Anyway just did my garbage and am hungry and very tired. Take care of yourself and if you have time call me tomorrow.
7th-Jan-2011 09:03 am (UTC)
Gosh, so sorry to hear about Eugene, Sue! That sucks big time...

I don't know if Marilyn will have time to talk tomorrow, but phone me at home, will you?

7th-Jan-2011 04:42 pm (UTC)
butting in sorry --

Sorry to hear about your friend! I do hope he makes a good recovery with ease :)

8th-Jan-2011 10:45 am (UTC)
Thanks, Sue.

I'm so sorry to hear about Eugene. The falling thing is scary for anybody, and even more for seniors who take a long time to heal (or never heal). I heard yesterday that Vern's wife Sylvia, who has Alzheimer's, fell down the stairs on Christmas and has now been in the hospital for two weeks. It's not looking good, and I worry about Vern.

7th-Jan-2011 09:09 am (UTC)
All week, no matter how hard things have been, I've thought about us discussing Liza's terrible loss. You are so right that there's little in life that's as important as the life of a loved one. But then, you're almost always right, so I'm not surprised. (smile)

And you deserved to be there at City Hall for the vote on the rename. I look forward to attending that ceremony this weekend! I'm personally very pleased that you were introduced during Gil's testimony -- you certainly earned that right.

You always seem to find time for people, which is an amazing quality -- especially considering how busy your life is. I admire this and long to emulate it more myself.

I'm very proud to be your friend, to have you as a boss and to be your sister.
8th-Jan-2011 10:46 am (UTC)
I believe everyone has something to say worth listening to, but it's hard to find the time to listen. Even Casey needs someone to listen, and I feel like it's part of my mission in life.
7th-Jan-2011 12:37 pm (UTC)
Your musings and experience this first week of 2011 have touched me. Moments... thanks for sharing yours.
8th-Jan-2011 10:47 am (UTC)
Thanks, Donna.
7th-Jan-2011 02:53 pm (UTC)
That was really sad about your friend. I'm sorry.
8th-Jan-2011 10:48 am (UTC)
Yeah. She's such a cool woman, and I always got the sense that theirs was more than a marriage: it was a real romance.
7th-Jan-2011 03:37 pm (UTC)
You did good Marilyn, very good.
8th-Jan-2011 10:48 am (UTC)
Thanks, Kyra.
7th-Jan-2011 04:41 pm (UTC)
Oh how fun to hear the back story on the building!

sorry about your friends loss, it is soo true sooo often sadly the being left alone :(

I do hope she will get to the recovery stage of it all, and learn she is still young and can really do a lot and change the alone dynamic. Too many women seem to not do that it seems.

Men seem better at it, and women instead do some volunteer work (or work if still needed) and kinda close down and in ... going home to an empty house, staying in ...

8th-Jan-2011 10:49 am (UTC)
I know Liza will do okay. She's a really cool woman with a good perspective on life, but theirs was a real romance, and I think she'll be heartbroken for a while.
8th-Jan-2011 03:10 am (UTC)
No wonder you feel 90
8th-Jan-2011 10:49 am (UTC)
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